Until I read a book called ” Between you and your dream, there’s only a distance of formula.” The author is Hong Dan. She’s famous LinkedIn China writer. So far she helped 2000+people from having zero writing experiences to good writers.
She mentioned two myths that many people might have in reality. I don’t know about the ballpark number of people that possibly have the two myths in their minds. But I’m sure that both of myths were in my mind! When I read this, I felt two punches right on my face. Right hook+Left hook. DingDingDing, man down.
I’m on the progress of getting back up again along the way of building my online business from scratch And I’ll like to share the myths with you first.
- Myth 1 : Sugarcoat the fact of wasting money with investing ourselves.
So for certain group of people, they’d like to cultivate reading habits, which is good. But we just have to actually open the books and read them. Utilize the knowledge we learnt from the book into our daily lives. In that case we’d have results that we can optimize. The more we read, the more knowledge we can gain. Makes perfect sense yea?
But some people would buy too many books at once. Few days later, there’s discount goes :”’get your 50% off on specific categories of books before the end of this month”. And those people buy books again. Well, I buy books again. Despite the fact that I haven’t finished all the books I bought last time.
In this case, we’re sugarcoating the fact of wasting money with the act of investing ourselves. We’re lying to ourselves that we did this because we want our futures to become better. So What the solution I’m using at the moment is to cut 30 minutes time section to read everyday. When I have more free time or during weekends, I’ll read more, for instance, a full book.
Important reminder that I keep telling myself along this process of building online business is ” What did I read?” & ” What did I learn?” . When I finish the book, I’ll ask myself “What are the key takeaways?” & ” What do I agree and disagree?”
The goal? There are two:
(1) Practice ACTUAL action of investing myself instead of wasting money buying books.
(2) Train myself to think deeply and think outside the box.
- Myth 2: Confuse “validation of the thoughts we already have in mind” with “learning new knowledge”
In order to improve ourselves, we attend conferences, webinars, seminars, etc. We go there to learn new knowledge or acquire new skill sets. So we attend the events, listen to speeches made by motivational speakers, time management experts, business consultants, and so on and so forth. Then we take notes while listening to the speech.
If we take a closer of the notes we wrote, a lot of times we can find out what we wrote down are things we agree with the speaker, which 95% of the notes are the thoughts/knowledge/mindset we already have in mind, BEFORE attending such events.
In that case, hearing the speaker said the things you agree, is validation of your thoughts you have in your mind. It’s not new knowledge for you. It’s just that you thought you were learning something new.
The author provide one solution to help us achieve the goal of thinking deeply and thinking outside the box is “ask why”. For instance, Why do we need to do this? Why do we use this method to proceed? Why do we choose to start at that certain time instead of any time else? etc. This is a great way to get ourselves into deep thinking mode. And to accomplish what we want to achieve in our lives.