I’m 28. I only have 3 years to live the life I want if I don’t start living it.
For years, I’ve been living somebody’s else life. The life that somebody else wants me to. Get good grades at school. Attend top-ranking University. Study graduate school and get awesome job with nice salary and work title. Then you find your right person, get married and have kids. Bang! 100! your life’s awesome!
I’ve been working as an engineer for a good company. This work met the expectation of what society think is fantastic. After working for a period of time I realized that this isn’t the life I want. Honestly, I didn’t want to admit this fact because i was afraid of others’ judgement. Not anymore, I realized that I couldn’t keep lying to myself. I’m here to be totally honest with you. AND I’m so glad to have you with me you amazing audiences!!! You meant a lot to me I have to say.
Okok back to the topic.
Have you ever felt that we chose something because others said so? Parents, spouse, friends, or…the society?
I have. And I am the typical person who followed the society-deemed-good-path. What path? Remember back in school time, we were often told to get good grades at school, attend great universities, get nice solid job with awesome salary? And then you get a wife/husband, buy house & car then you can have kids. Why is that? Because society think you should do that. And there are so many “you should” out there.
(I always have O.S. in my mind when somebody’s telling what to do “yea yea yea you should… you should… should. You know what I think you should shut up!! ”)
This “you should” has been controlling me until a month ago, when I woke up in the morning, I felt terrible. It took me 30 minutes to get off from bed(used to be 3 seconds). Not being happy nor excited to go to work. That’s the time I realized that this is not what I want of my life.
So I did some calculation at the time regarding how much free time is left in my life, if i do this 9-5 job forever till I die:
According to the 2017 stats from the Statista, the average life expectancy in East Asia for those born in 2018 females is 79. I’m 29. So there is 79-29=50 years that I can live. Sounds ok so far, but let’s break it down:
There are 24 hours a day. So everyday for individuals who work 9-5 job, take myself for instance:
@ 8 hours of sleep-33.33%
@ 8 hours of work-33.33%
@ 2.5 hours of commute time-10%
@ 3 hours for 3 meals+break-12.5%
@ 1 hour of exercise-4.2%
only 1.5 hours of free time(6.25%). So 50 years of my rest of life is equivalent to 50(years) x 365(days/years) x 1.5(hours/day)=27,375 hours=1141 days=38 months=3 years
3 years of free time ?!?!?
This result struck me hard. That was the time I determined to change my life, as if my life is dependent on it. I started to read lots of books in various fields such as successful people habits, self-growth, time management, entrepreneur mindsets, and et cetera.
No skill sets at all? I learn!
No experiences at all? I gain!
English is not good enough? I brush up!
This is my life, one life, a life that is too short to be somebody else. I know what I want and what I don’t want of my life. and I’m going 110% for it. If you are in similar situation, watch this free videos.